Very commonly when working with clients, they say their dog is being stubborn. We are trying to do something new with the dog that the dog has never done before. A surprising amount of people think the dog is being stubborn and knows what to do but chooses not to do it.
This is actually a big reason why Force training back in the day caused a lot of issues. People would automatically jump to “the dog is stubborn.” So then they would add consequence. But if the dog didn’t actually know what to do, you could run the risk of breaking spirit in the dog.
So here are a few things I tell clients to help them determine if their dog is being stubborn:
- Rule of 33 – Three things you ask here.
- Command – Has the dog done the command before?
- Distraction – Has the dog done the command at this distraction level before?
- Distance – Has the dog done the command at this distance before?
The command is usually yes. The dog has done the command before, such as sit or down. But the other two things matter a lot. Has the dog done sit or down at this particular distraction level and distance? If they never have, then I do not allow myself to say the dog is being stubborn.
- Body Language
- Small – Ears back, tail low, licking lips, blinking eyes.
- Tall – Ears perked, tail up posture forward
If you also see body language as small with ears back, tail low, licking lips or blinking eyes, that is a sign the dog is being respectful but doesn’t understand what you are asking.
Some of the increases in difficulty, such as a bit of distraction and distance, seem inconsequential to us, but they are a big step for the dog. I have a name for this. We call it “University Professor Syndrome.” You know how some people are super smart on a subject, but terrible at breaking it down for others? It’s because they never struggled with it so they have a hard time understanding how to break it down for others.
You will often find the best teachers on a subject were the ones who struggled with that subject.
So I give people this analogy. Once I go over all of the training with them, which there is quite a lot to know, I tell them: I now want you to teach this to others at an expert level, otherwise I think you are being stubborn and we are going to shock you. The clients start to get the point then. Then I say, even if I went over this 3 times with you, I now want you to teach this at an expert level, otherwise I think you are being stubborn and we are going to shock you. They are still thinking, they likely don’t know it well enough after 3 times. However, if we went over it 33 times, then yes, they likely know it quite well.
Point being: When you increase any distance or distraction, it resets the Rule of 33 to 0. It can mess the dog up again. You may need to break things down again for them to understand. Some dogs will be sassy and bark. They might have all their body language up. But that can merely be out of frustration. The key thing is the Rule of 33. Have they done the command before 33 times at this new level?
I really learned this when I thought they were being stubborn too. So what I did was say they were only getting fed their meal if they did as I asked. Soon you would see drool pouring out of their mouth. You could tell they really wanted it, they just didn’t understand. As you got closer, they would then get it. That is when the lightbulb really clicked for me. I thought about the University and College profs I had that were clearly very smart on a subject but absolutely terrible at breaking it down to be understood. Luckily I had another very smart friend who was good at figuring things out and breaking it down for me. She didn’t understand the profs either and they could not break it down for her. But she was smart enough to figure it out.
Consequence
Because here’s the thing. If a dog is being stubborn, consequence is what solves that problem. But if you add consequence and the dog actually doesn’t understand, you do run the risk of breaking spirit like they did back in the force training days. That’s why I tell clients, you can’t taser toddlers for not peeing in the potty when they don’t understand. But a 25 year old guy peeing in public places is not likely to get retraining from the police with gummy bears.
Relating
Maybe I can relate better to dogs as I often feel like a dummy on everything new I go to learn. It always feels like I run into issues that no one else has. Or it just doesn’t click for me. But once I learn it, then I can explain it very well, as I seemingly have run into all the issues and figured out the problems that overcome that issue.
Plus Side to Being Slower
If a dog doesn’t catch onto patterns quickly, there is actually a plus side to that. Those dogs are less likely to develop aggression issues. The smart dogs that catch everything instantly are way more likely to develop aggression issues. We relate it to horsepower. The more brain power (or horsepower), the more likely you will have a wreck in the future. So when I work with clients, I tell them I prefer the dogs that take a bit and then understand. It is pretty incredible to see the range at how fast or slow some dogs are at catching onto patterns.
So give your dog a chance. They likely just don’t understand and you need to break it down for them. This is the main thing I help clients with. The dog is at A and clients try to jump to D. So I teach them how to break things down so the dog can understand and build up to the level they want.
If you need help learning how to break things down. Contact me at Tyson@DogSquad.ca or 403-877-3006


